Astrology is an ancient study, men and women have been following the paths of the celestial bodies since the dawn of time, and yet today, many of us are still unaware of the profound effect that they have on our lives. We live from day to day, encountering good times, bad times, difficult times and hellish times, unaware for the most part that we are in so many ways, following a pattern that was written at the time of our birth. This is the premise of the study of Astrology, that the natal chart provides a map wherein lie all the potentials of the natives life, a map that the majority of us know nothing about, and probably never will!

As an astrologer, I often get enquiries in regards to whether this or that particular relationship will work or not, and whether the “synastry” is good, or whether it is “destined” to work, and my answers are never very clear. As with any aspect of life, a relationship is what you make it, and no amount of “leaning” on any particular school of thought, or esoteric discipline, can make a good relationship bad, or vice versa. What I have noticed however, when looking at charts, is that I can see quite clearly where people bond… what attracts them… what fascinates them…. what irritates them… what pushes their buttons… and these things can often relate to childhood experiences, and relationships with parents, or indeed siblings. It seems to me that very often, if you had a difficult relationship with a parent, that you are likely to call into your life, adult relationships in which you create a similar dynamic, albeit unconsciously, in order to try to resolve the issue that still sleeps within you. It is fascinating, but also scary, to see how the chart of a person can reflect quite accurately on some levels the chart of an in law! In this case you can be sure, that the issues that come up between partners can often be the same issues that they had with their parents as children, and which they are still helplessly driven towards trying to resolve.

Our choice of partners and relationships may not be as much a matter of choice as we often think, and we seem to be able to draw into our lives, as if by magic, the situations that will force us to look at ourselves in a new way, and which present us with the opportunities that we need, to learn what we are craving for. In this manner, we are given the chance to resolve the tangle of emotions that are left over from a childhood that may not have been as happy and nurturing as we might have needed.

The triggering of the outer planets in the natal chart, through transits and progressions during childhood, is something that I have studied with deep interest, and I have found that events “recorded” in our psyches through emotional trauma, that happen in “particular degrees” of the horoscope, may then draw into our lives, relationships that feature these “particular degrees”. I feel that this occurs in order to facilitate us to contact the feelings that we may have found too difficult to voice as children, so that we may try again, with the voice of an adult, to speaking our truth, albeit from a place that may seem to have little relevance in our adult world. Such relationships carry a compulsion, intensity, power and beauty that can lure and entangle us, as we are wrecked and broken by the treachery that lies beneath the sirens rock. They can also however, help us to reveal the truth and the beauty that also lies there, freeing us to become more whole and able to embrace our emotional selves, as we wrestle with love, passion and heartbreak, in our eternal efforts to heal ourselves.


I am an Astrologer, Tarot Reader and Writer, who lives in the wilds of Western Ireland. My long knowledge of Astrology leads and informs my practice in offering guidance and empowerment, helping others to lead a more authentic and magical life. You can read more about me here at www.joannakategrant.com.

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